I’m Christian Foremost, a Filipino Blogger/Writer/Podcaster and mental health advocate who writes personal stories of growth, life advice, and refreshing perspectives to inspire you to love yourself. I promote daily journaling as a healthy outlet to express and explore oneās honest thoughts and feelings. The path towards self-discovery and actualization starts by acknowledging your truths and facing your problems head-on.
I think I spent about 75% of existence here on earth stuck in my head hoping things were different. If only I lived in a world where stigma against homosexuals didn’t exist, I could have shown confidence and made more friends in school. If only my family were rich, I could have gone after a college course I was truly passionate about instead of opting for the flexibility of employment a business course offered.
All of those years, I denied myself the possibilities of a better life. I didn’t believe my dreams were ever gonna come true because my mere existence contradicted with anything I could ever want. The reality I was currently living in felt so far away from the fantasy of I life I wish I had. I felt doomed with a future I knew I was never going to be truly happy with. I was pretending to be somebody else because I was ashamed of discovering who I truly was. And for a long time, I allowed myself to be okay with it.
My life was only put in motion when I finally decided to take that first step in figuring out who I was. Then, I just started going after everything I truly wanted out of life. Nothing was impossible! I learned so much since taking that first step, and I hope that any one of these 6 Priceless Lessons that Changed My Life for the Better can spark some inspiration and empower you guys to go after your dreams and live your best life.
6 Priceless Lessons that Changed My Life for the Better
1. You’re the only person who defines who you are.
Don’t allow what other people will think or say to limit yourself or make you pretend to be someone you’re not. Their comments and opinions do not matter. This is your life and as long as you’re not causing harm to others, you’re free to express who you are and do what you want.
2. Donāt give up on yourself before youāve even started.
Everyone has potential within themselves to live their best lives, amidst their present circumstances and the never-ending set of challenges life throws their way. Use everything you’ve gone through and all of those lessons you’ve learned to shape you to be the person you want to become. It’s not going to be easy. There’s a lot of work, but you just have to want it enough.
3. Let yourself free and start walking towards your calling.
Get out of the box you’ve put yourself in because of fear or wanting to satisfy other people’s expectations. What do you want to do? What will satisfy you? Pursue your passion in any way you can and be open to everything that life has to offer. You don’t need a detailed plan for success right off the bat. Just take that first step and you’ll figure everything out along the way. Know that you will make a lot of mistakes, but what you learn from them will be valuable.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask other people for help.
You will always need other people. Just learn to filter helpful constructive criticism from unnecessary or harmful opinions. Surround yourself with supportive people and those who share the same passion you have. Feed off each other’s energy and learn from each one’s experiences. These may be people you haven’t met yet so always choose to be kind.
5. Growth is something to consistently work on.
You’re a work-in-progress and no matter how old you are or how much you’ve achieved, you’re never going to be done. Always open your mind and seek knowledge everywhere you can. There’s always something new to learn and ways to do things better. You’re going to change, and that’s expected. It just has to be your responsibility to make sure you change for the better.
6. Take ownership of your own life and be responsible for your future from now on.
Do not seek or expect validation from other people, even if you love them. Be independent. Don’t be afraid to go through things alone because sometimes, you just have to. This is your life. You’re the hero of your own story and you better fight for that happy ending.
You have the power to take charge of your life and make things freaking happen already if you want to. Once you discover your identity and start believing in yourself, you’ll be unstoppable in conquering your dreams. I’m already excited for everything you’re about to do!
This is how my life changed…
For me, that first step in changing my life was as simple as writing my honest thoughts and feelings down in a journal. After that, everything else followed. Journaling unraveled my messy thoughts until I finally understood and accepted who I was. Journaling strengthened my resolve to come out. I started being more open to friends and strangers. I even took a shot at online dating and met so many great guys. I started working out even when I barely had an ounce of muscle in my body. I went on weekend classes and took online courses I totally loved. I tried all of these new hobbies even when I didn’t know what I doing most of the time. I found a platform for my passion where I can start writing and continuously challenge myself. I also built a community aiming to help other writers from different backgrounds share their wisdom to the world. And no, Iām not yet done!
There’s this endless supply of passion to pursue everything that I ever wanted to do in my life. It’s exhausting sure, but I’m happy and super excited. Also, just let me know if you want some my supply of passion, because Iām always willing to share it with you guys!
Iām still grateful to have lived the life I had growing up. I look back and remember a lot of fond memories. I have the bestest friends ever that I still keep in touch with today. One of the things I regret though is just not taking that first step sooner, but thatās alright. There’s not a lot you can do with the past. You can only deal with right now.
This is my life now. Itās not perfect. Iām still dealing with issues Iāve carried from the past and new ones are popping left and right, but I know that Iāll be okay. Iām 100% in the present and all geared up to march my way towards a future that’s just gonna get better and better.
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I agree with all these 6 points. It’s true, do not give up on your dreams even before trying.
Thank you for these powerful life lessons. I enjoy journaling hence my direction to blogging.
These lessons were super inspirational. Good for you. I think an internal locus of control helps a lot of things in life.
I loved this lesson: 2. Donāt give up on yourself before youāve even started.
I am self-sabotaging so much and this was truly a reminder to give myself a chance before starting to criticize everything I do.
This is spot on and I also went through some as well. I hesitated to ask for help and kept struggling a lot. Thank you for sharing!
very good thoughts in life very inspirational,,we make our own destiny and it doesnt come easily..need to work hard for it.inspirations would be a really a big push too.
a lovely sharing , so so true some of the lessons that I can relate personally š I have a good read from this sharing, thanks so much. cheers,SiennyLovesDrawing
Some really great positive messages here. I love these positive affirmations that keep me going every day even when it feels super tough š
All excellent tips and really great at keeping the mind from self-destruction. I would add one more tip that has worked for me personally – be in the present. As Leo Tolstoy wrote, the present is the only time over which we have dominion. The past is not worth the worry, since there’s nothing you can do about it, though lessons can be drawn from it in retrospect. The future hasn’t happened yet, and only the present can help you prepare for it, so it’s not worth worrying over.
Glad to hear your personal story and how you become a better person. Great lessons!
I really love this by this post you can improve your self development and you can grow as a person. This is so inspiring and motivating for everyone!
Beautiful post. A lot of us are suffering in silence and don’t realize it’s okay to ask for help.
Yes! I love these lessons! I think the journey of either personal development, spiritual awareness, awakening o whatever you like to call it leads to lessons such as these. It’s something I have also come to realise in the last few years. Congrats on your journey.
asking for help is the bravest thing I could do for myself. I understand we should never give up on ourselves and self love
All of these are important lessons and I really agree with number 4, there are so many people too afraid or too proud to ask for help and sometimes it can lead to really bad/dark places. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! We all need help at some point.
Thank you for the article and thank you for your inspiration! I feel so inspired!
I really resonate with number 2. I often see a lot of people who stop themselves before they even start. I myself used to do it. Once I stopped stopping myself I had so many amazing opportunities come my way.
These are great life lessons that people need to hear. Thank you for all the positivity!
This is such a motivating and inspiring post. We all need to read this to remind ourselves so that we can be responsible for ourselves and our own happiness. I think the part I need to sometimes remember is that itās okay to ask others for help. Thank you so much for sharing! š
Take ownership of your own life and be responsible for your future from now on! Keeping this in mind. My future belongs to me and only me and I will make it just how I want it to be. :))